Broke no contact after 17 days with an avoidant attachment ex

2021.12.02 15:42 healingjourney777 Broke no contact after 17 days with an avoidant attachment ex

This is a long story:
Me and my ex were together for almost a year. We got together in January of 2021 and it was a rocky relationship from the start. I was dealing with my own anxious attachment style while he was very much avoidant attachment style. He also was used to being very flirty and having a lot of female friends which I would tell him many times it made me uncomfortable. Gradually I started to notice patterns where it started to feel like whenever we had a disagreement he would distance himself and grow resentment. Especially if I ever mentioned being uncomfortable about his female friends texting him all the time, he felt that I was taking away his freedoms.
He never told me he loved me in the relationship and said that love was something he only told one person, and that person was his friend who died years ago. He would instead tell me he “cherishes” me.
Our relationship became very toxic as I was wanting more quality time and affection and he was constantly pushing me away for other things he needed to do. Things got worse when I noticed he was on Instagram liking other female pictures and I brought it up to him and this is when things start to go downhill. I knew I was wrong for looking at what he was doing on social media but there was this gut feeling that something was wrong in this relationship, I was always on edge in the relationship. It always felt like he was never really into me and using me because I showered him with attention when he needed it.
He broke up with me the first time in June of 2021 and we were able to reconcile after agreeing to take things slowly but surely enough we rushed back into a relationship. The issues continued where it felt like I was putting in all the effort, he was continuing to grow resentment but at this time I would have no way of knowing because he faked it all the way. He continued to sleepover on the weekends and I at his place, we would go on dates ….
November 10th was a strange day. We were texting each other about how we couldn’t wait for the holidays together, how we can’t wait for winter break (we are both in school). That same day he called me while I was in the middle of studying to breakup with me saying it wasn’t working out and he wasn’t feeling it anymore. In complete shock I asked him why and if we could talk about it and he hung up and blocked me from text and Instagram.
I was completely blindsided because I had convinced myself that after our first breakup things were okay between us. Truthfully I now know that when dating an avoidant attachment you really don’t know what’s to come. I cried all night and the next day I went over to his place because I felt like I deserved more than a few minutes over the phone. The pathetic thing is that he wasn’t even going to come down to talk. Instead he had his mother come down and speak for him. She told me he showed her all of my messages where I would ask about the other girls he was following on social media or texting. She said I was wrong and I remember thinking wow, this is insane. He’s really having his mom speak for him. Eventually he comes down to speak to me and he tells me he’s not interested in being in a relationship anymore, and that I caused him to feel depressed. This really hurt me. We both cried and he said the words we all know too well, “we should be friends”
Of course I didn’t want to be friends, I just wanted him back, but I agreed thinking it would maybe get him to see that he will miss me. His birthday would be two days away and we had made plans together for that weekend so I was very emotional. I made the stupid mistake of texting him emotional messages of why we should get back together and he left me on read. The day after his birthday I sent him a gift and he texted me “thanks for the gift, I really appreciate it” . I hadn’t texted him for 17 days after that
17 days of no contact and I was so depressed I had to check myself into a hospital. I came home after visiting the hospital and didn’t want to leave my bed. I lost 10 pounds from not having an appetite, my attention in classes was bad, grades were going down. There would be moments were I felt slightly better , but then I would check his Instagram to see he was liking sexy pictures of his “female friends” he even started posting again on social media which he never did when he was with me. Not once did he check on me or see how I was doing. Every time I would check his Instagram my heart would sink and I felt nauseous.
I’m moving out of state this month because I need a fresh start and have way too many traumatic experiences here. This morning I texted him “hey, I’m moving out of state in a few weeks, should I sell the concert tickets and Venmo you the amount?” I honestly wasn’t expecting him to respond but an hour later he texts “hey yeah I’d appreciate that. Best wishes”
His response was so cold and robotic. I feel sad but not devastated anymore. It just sucks how you can go from texting someone everyday to never really hearing from them ever again.
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B/O:
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Radiohead - Tinker Tailor Soldier Sailor Rich Man Poor Man Beggar Man Thief ran out of materials to mend to, ripped its clothes, died in war, drowned, lost its wealth, lost its wealth again, ran out of prayers, and was caught by police, respectively.
VOTE HERE SONGS IN

SONGS OUT:
Rank Song Votes Against Percentage Runner-Up
7th Radiohead - Tinker Tailor Soldier Sailor Rich Man Poor Man Beggar Man Thief 20 / 73 27.4% 14 / 73 (19.2%)
8th Phoebe Bridgers - Halloween 26 / 84 31.0% 14 / 84 (16.7%)
9th Kate Bush - The Dreaming 23 / 79 29.1% 18 / 79 (22.2%)
10th The Strokes - Eternal Summer 14 / 84 16.7% 2: 13 / 84 (15.5%)
11th Arcade Fire - Neighborhood #4 (7 Kettles) 12 / 74 16.2% 11 / 74 (14.9%)
12th Kids See Ghosts - Fire 13 / 77 16.9% 2: 12 / 77 (15.6%)
13th LCD Soundsystem - Watch the Tapes 15 / 73 20.5% 2: 8 / 73 (12.3%)
14th Black Country, New Road - Instrumental 11 / 75 14.7% 2: 8 / 75 (10.7%)
15th Radiohead - Faust Arp 12 / 70 17.1% 3: 8 / 70 (11.4%)
16th The Velvet Underground - European Son 8 / 53 15.1% 2: 7 / 53 (13.2%)
17th Daft Punk - Within 11 / 67 16.4% 7 / 67 (10.4%)
18th Kanye West - The New Workout Plan 16 / 69 23.2% 10 / 69 (14.5%)
19th Nirvana - Territorial Pissings 23 / 65 35.4% 5 / 65 (7.7%)
20th Tyler, the Creator - I DON’T LOVE YOU ANYMORE 19 / 74 25.7% 8 / 74 (10.8%)
21st Blink-182 - All the Small Things 15 / 80 18.7% 11 / 80 (13.7%)
22nd The Beach Boys - Pet Sounds 14 / 79 17.7% 10 / 79 (12.7%)
Note for anyone seeing this thread in the future: In order for a song to qualify for this survivor, it has to have placed a last in a survivor we ran on the album it's from.
SPOTIFY PLAYLIST
YOUTUBE MUSIC PLAYLIST (Shout out to the legend that is u/MightyCaseyStruckOut)
HONOURABLE MENTIONS:
  • The Strokes - When It Started
  • Weezer - Getchoo
  • Television - Guiding Light
  • David Bowie - Sue (Or In a Season of Crime)
  • Portishead - It's a Fire
INITIAL BRACKET
FIRST BRACKET RESULTS
SECOND BRACKET RESULTS
FULL LIFESAVER RESULTS
JOIN OUR DISCORD
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